Valentine's Day

With Valentine's Day approaching, one's thoughts are drawn to love. Love is defined so widely. Love for many people is some squishy bit of goo. Love must be more than a capricious emotion. Our emotions are too unreliable. I believe the band Boston tried to capture this thought in the song-"More Than a Feeling."

I looked out this morning and the sun was gone
Turned on some music to start my day
I lost myself in a familiar song
I closed my eyes and I slipped away

It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away
I see my Marianne walkin' away

So many people have come and gone
Their faces fade as the years go by
Yet I still recall as I wander on
As clear as the sun in the summer sky

It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away
I see my Marianne walkin' away

When I'm tired and thinking cold
I hide in my music, forget the day
And dream of a girl I used to know
I closed my eyes and she slipped away
She slipped away

It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away

 

I have been married to Michelle for 29 years. It's more than a feeling. Yet, the feelings of love are strong. Speaking from experience, there is nothing in life equal to loving a person for a lifetime. Love is defined by actions more than feelings. The feelings of love follow the actions of love. Love is intentionally doing for another something helpful that costs you something. Loving for a lifetime is living always to please the other person more than yourself. Love is not demanding, it is generous.

Happy Valentine's Day,

Stan